We tend not to be very nice to ourselves and most of the time we are not even aware of what the inner dialogue sounds like. This tool is to start being aware of what it is you say to yourself. One possibility is to start speaking kindly to yourself, like you would speak to your partner or friend. As we start to speak in our heads kindly, we start to feel differently. A few times this week, try doing something nice to yourself, on purpose. On occasion when I have dated myself: I bought myself flowers, then I thanked myself for buying me flowers:), I sing love songs to myself in the car all the way to work (this one makes me laugh every time), when I am folding the laundry, washing dishes, cooking or any task, I thank myself for doing all that I do for me and tell myself how much I love me! This sounds strange I know but try it! I never want my clients to believe me, I want them to try something new and see what will work. Willing to give it a try?